Friday, March 16, 2018

We are born with positivity!

All of us are built to be positive. We do not need someone to make us feel positive. 

Going by electrical polarity, current flows from positive terminal to negative terminal. Electrons flow from negative to positive. Just run a search to know more, if you want to convince yourself of your lessons from high-school science classes.

Recall Math lessons? Plus x Minus = Minus.

We are inherently positive people. 

By the Creator’s design, we have a certain mental energy level, which in different theories of Times and Geographies, have been manifested as aura, strength, shakti, positivity and many more of beautiful verbiage in spiritual diction. All of these refer to the inherent drive to live life positively with a purpose ( which we may or may not know ) that each one of us being born in this world will eventually and definitely meet. 

This may be why are able to attract Negatives (Our thoughts, words or deeds may be negatively influenced by something that someone thought, said, or did). 

Pessimism and negativity are perfectly acceptable in life as without them we would not be able to realize what it is like to be optimistic and positive.However, negativity is not appreciated to be dwelling in us, because that’s not what we are created to live with. We do not know to deal with it. None of us does. We simply are not cut to live with negativity.

Negativity disturbs our health and happiness big time! This needs no explanation as you can see that the Internet has scores of articles in every field of medicine associating negativity to stress to dis-ease. Exactly why people talk so much about being positive or staying in the original state of energies that we all have come into the world with.

External agencies ( situations, people, events, incidents, emotions, accidents, expectations, desires, goals, temper, temptations) seem to cause negativity because of our own swiftly depleting positivity that we came in with.

We may need someone to help us know the negatives as ‘being negative to us’. Often a friend, a parent, a foe, a manager, a teacher,  a child, a spouse, or just an angry expressive individual would help us know/feel negativity with their helpful temperamental outbursts or with friendly, calm, soft, caring, emotional, or good word of caution.

As an after-thought, I am thankful for every such exchange, because negatives if unnoticed, by the science and math laws we saw earlier, can just flow towards us and fuse with our inherent positivity and drown us totally.

Let’s thank the sense of being able to identify the negativity, either by self or by seeking help, so we find ways to retain positivity, stay healthy, live happy, and completely on-course with our purpose in life.

Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Memories - As we Make It

A short story as heard…

On a late evening, a group of college students was gathered to celebrate their friend’s birthday. The beautiful girl was dressed in her best party outfit, new and pretty, and her smiles flashed that she was truly happy. ( I smiled too..)

Outside the gate, three boys were into a big argument about something and it turned ugly and unfair for one of them. He was visibly hurt as seen from his eyes. ( I could sense that too..)

However, as it was time for the party, they had to move indoors. They were well-mannered people in that they decided to honor the invite in spite of the bad turn of events. ( Must’ve been really grim, I thought..)

A few others in the group had caught what’s going on too. ( Made it worse, I imagined… )

The hurt man walked into the hall with a raging temper.. (Yes, takes a lot to calm immediately after a stormy verbal match. )

A smart young lady who was his friend swiftly walked up to him.( I liked her instantly. A friend stands by your side when you need support.) 

He said something to her in a raging temper to which she calmly, reassuringly, and assertively said “ I understand. Save the temper for tomorrow. Today is her day. Let’s help her make happy memories “.
( Beautiful thought...I realized)

How often do we spoil another person’s mood even if she does not belong in the fight or its fall out, by speaking/fighting/arguing/being temperamental/emotional without thinking?? I have done many times. It has always been my temper over-powering me than the other person’s fitment in the whole story.

What remains in life is memories. I am learning it well and have it right. 

To the party host and the princess of the evening, if this young man had spoken up his temper and the scene had changed, it would come up as part of her sweet memories every time. 

We do not want stains in happy moments. None of us do. So, why not ensure the same for the rest of the world too?? Why not wait a bit, think a little, assess the place, event, and context before expressing unpleasantness?

Credits and Thanks:

I thank the friend who narrated this little event to me, of which I made a quick story, as I pictured of it and spoke what I felt. Golden advice like these have to be rewarded by simply remembering to follow them until it becomes ingrained in us. I thank the friend in the story whose wisdom bit is worth a try.

Thursday, March 08, 2018

How much is too much? How much is Enough? How much does it take to be content?

I looked up "Technical writing trends online" when an idea occurred to me as I was writing today. I saved the lookup for the afternoon, because I knew I will need a diversion. Upon a few casual clicks on the subject I was looking for ( Simplified Technical English ), I figured out something…
  1. Every one is unsure of the importance of his/her job in the other person’s mind.
  2. There is a race for being on-top-of-everything in a given field to grow up the ladder.
  3. There is a confusion about being a generalist and specialist. "Which is fancy now?” is a big race in the already maddening race that we are on.
  4. How much is too much? is still a big question in life when it comes to knowledge and learning.
  5. "Do you have to know this and this and this also to be what you want to be?? “ is according to me a perineal professional dilemma.
  6. Where are you as a person anywhere?? You can be an engineer, a doctor, a professional with a million claps by half of the globe’s population for your professional feat, but personally, does anyone even care a lil about what you may have gone through to make it there?
  7. When will people understand that more and more of work and its superficial threats to existence such as career goals, expectations, furthering skills and knowledge etc... and less and less of real connections with people, make a man sick, poor, and foolish??
  8. Just what do we want to achieve? - Fame? Name?Money?Perfection?
  9. Whom do we want to satisfy? - Ourselves? Other people?
  10. It is either over-evaluating or undermining ourselves more often than not, which makes us as fidgety as we all are.
  • Every site says their business is the best. What is the benchmark of Good, Better and Best in anything?
  • Every professional claim his work deserves a promotion. If everyone gets promoted who will do the not-so-key jobs? And How many CEOs can a company have anyways?
  • Every employer says that the employee should have done better. Why did you not say earlier on anyways?
  • Every employee says that the company should provide better benefits. What will keep an employee happy anyways?
  • Every customer says the business needs to be more customer-centric. Who else do they think the business is making products for?
  • Every business claims that the customers today have changed ways. Really?? Value for Money has changed, so has the customer may be?
Coming to think of the complete picture, every one is just plain unhappy with what ever situation they are in. Most do not say. Have we forgotten what real happiness may be like?? 

May be!. Its just too fast-paced a world, to stop and think about how much happy we ought to be than our ancestor generations when food, clothing, and shelter were all it took for people to Smile, be Happy and Thankful too!!.

Friday, March 02, 2018

Yeh Dil Hai Mushkil - This Heart is Tough

The Hindi movie, 'Yeh Dil Hai Mushkil' was a total chance click on one late night movie time. After quite a while, I sat for a Karan Johar movie.

I have not been watching too many movies so I don't know if the industry has got some changes in thinking like my own mind has, but I can say that I saw this movie from a different perspective than what I saw on the screen. Age catching up? Or Wisdom teaming up? Or am I becoming more 'accepting'? I don't know which one is true, but I liked the movie for the unsaid thoughts.

The storyline is simple:

An attractive boy falls in love with a very attractive girl. The overly expressive girl shares some affection for the boy, but it is more of a 'care' than the romantic love( which is usually the expected outcome when two people give a really long deep look into each other's eyes on the screen ).

They part ways as they find their 'love' nests elsewhere. Or so they think.

In course of time, they find that the nest which they thought would nurture love, started showing signs of depletion/non-existence/misconstrued notion.

The girl is diagnosed with a disease that is a monster of today's times. Together the duo figures out that what he had for her was love with a little bit of romance tied to it and what she had for her was love too without romantic ties. And they come to terms with the fact and stay as companions.

A neutral ending. Lovely Music. Beautiful Women. Deep Meaning.

I didn't like the direction at all, but the underlying message in the movie was beautiful.

Love is everywhere. In various forms. Let's not brand it as Romantic love always. When the soul needs love, the universe gives it somehow. Rarely we realize it. Those that do, are blessed and blissful in the feeling.

God's love is so wonderful!.


Monday, February 26, 2018


Its a long route to freedom.. a winding steep and high
When u walk in along with the wind on your face
And cover the earth with the songs you sing
The miles fly by...

I suddenly recalled this verse from somewhere. Should be school verses. Coming to think of it, the lyrics are so freshening up and rejuvenating for the mind. Aren’t they?
Yes, Freedom feels quite freshening. Undoubtedly. 

I read somewhere, 'Enjoy Freedom Responsibly’. Beautifully said.

It's easy to lose track of responsibility and commitment, when the freedom is ingrained so much in our minds, that it borders on the thin line of control wall with indifference and carelessness on the other side.
  • Freedom is going out. Responsible freedom is to be aware of the surroundings too.
  • Freedom is dressing up comfortably or dressing up to feel good. Responsible freedom is to dress up for the occasion/event/place.
  • Freedom is doing whatever feels good. Responsible freedom is to evaluate if it may hurt someone’s person/sentiment/choices.
  • Freedom is eating/drinking what you want. Responsible freedom is making sure that the others in the table/family/group do not mind too.
  • Freedom is talking. Responsible freedom is to ensure that your talking doesn’t affect the others negatively.
  • Freedom is writing. Responsible freedom is to write sensibly in your own infinite boundary without using rude language which disturbs that one reader who may try to strike a chord with your work.
  • Freedom is opinion. Responsible freedom is to give opinions knowing that the other person wants one.
  • Freedom is choosing your own faith or religion. Responsible freedom is to exercise your beliefs within the limits of the religious sentiments.
  • Freedom is love. Responsible freedom is to not misuse the 'love' in the freedom.
  • Freedom is a gift. Responsible freedom is to realize 'Freedom' as a gift and use it wisely.
Live free! Enjoy Responsible Freedom! Live in Love.

Its a long route to freedom.. a winding steep and high
When u walk in along with the wind on your face
And cover the earth with the songs you sing
The miles fly by...

Friday, February 09, 2018

Splash on Hospitals

A place that makes you realize that :

  1. Health is the true Wealth.
  2. True Love is beyond what we all think it is.
  3. So many people are at times needed to support the survival of a person.
  4. Money cannot buy Life.
  5. Rich or Poor, the Maker's choice of organs and their mechanisms do not vary.
  6. Patience and Wait is everything in Life.
  7. One day, Ego will come crashing down if you need help with your personal care.
  8. In the wheels of Time, if we live to grow old, we will become weak and sober down before we knock out, off the party of Life!
  9. Forgiveness is the best way to good health.
  10. Anger is just plain Madness if seen through the lens of health.
  11. No one is spared from the punishments, the worst one being suffering on the deathbed.
  12. The only company for an ailing old person is his faith in the Omnipresent.
  13. All the world's a Stage! and William Shakespeare said it Right!

Much more realizations, every waking minute in a hospital... 

Long story cut short, it is one place to visit if you really want to understand the 'Nothingness' in this Universe.

We are here for a joyride, is what we think and we make little things big and big things little. When we die, the opposites happen and we will realize, what we have not realized in the many chances that God gave us throughout our lifetime ( Yes, God is very Forgiving...We get repeated chances to change, till our death note is delivered) and only then depart from the shell called BODY.

God Bless every soul with this understanding and together let's make the short stay on this planet beautiful for ourselves and others.

Sri Rama Jayam!

Wednesday, January 31, 2018

Who should be the real ruler?? - Auto driver stands tall!

As the auto driver was narrating the agony of the pregnant woman in labor and her husband, whom he took to the government hospital in Bangalore, all the pain from the past came back to my mind…

A Grinding, Churning, Creaking pain in the pelvic joint… Closed Eyes...Gritting teeth….Eyes shedding tear drops but the tear drops do not dare to trickle down the cheeks…Hands moving to the belly unconsciously trying to check the little baby inside...Worried looks on all the faces around…A sudden relief…. Words spring up.. Vocal cord breaks open the silence and says “God, this is impossible to bear”! The kith and kin fervently pray for the strength of the woman.

You just read the most minimal, realistic, verbal visualization of the throbbing effect of labor pain that most women get to go through.

And it repeats… and goes on and on until the final creak, and first cry leading to dried tears on the new mom’s face.

(It is impossible for me not to recollect my own blessed chances of going through labor twice, both times very different experiences, with different people to oversee, and very different levels of pain!!)

Its good, because, only if I had known the pain, would I understand what the lady in labor traveling in auto in Bangalore traffic to the hospital may have gone through.

Apparently, the auto driver stood support for the man while the lady was in the labor room. The husband had chosen this hospital because the delivery was to be done free of cost. They were construction workers and could not afford an expensive plush hospital.

The scene as reported by the auto driver to me on my way to work.....

The doctor comes back with a serious look on his face saying, the lady was safe but the newborn was at risk and needed an incubator which comes at a cost of Rs 8k. The new father obviously went into a sudden shock as all he had was Rs. 3500 at the moment. The auto driver had a 2k which he managed from his previous day’s work. So 5.5k and still the incubator was denied. And this is at a

The auto driver spoke to many people and managed to gain some support for the cause and the hospital agreed to house the baby until these men took a decision. Due to some medical complexity, the baby was having trouble breathing properly. With all the stress this whole event caused, the new dad completely lost hopes.

This auto driver drove to two other hospitals and spoke to all concerned, found a hospital which agreed for the incubator and the baby care provided, these people were ready to take care of the extra charges that may be incurred for the special supplies, ( that need to be procured from outside )that the hospital may not always have. 

The auto driver shifted the mother and baby to this hospital ( Victoria Hospital which was roughly an hour’s ride by auto on a clear traffic day from Whitefield ), ensured that he spoke to all the authorities in the hospital board and got the baby and mom safe and sound back home. He shelled out his 4 days income, 8k and borrowed whatever else was needed from some benefactors and supported the new dad through the ordeal.

Every day he would visit the baby in the hospital before his day began at 6 A.M. He did this for seven days. For someone, he didn’t even know. 

Now, if a common man has so much compassion and could go a little further than he can financially manage for a stranger’s baby, what do we have to say about the government hospitals that have the duty to take care of the childbirths that happen in their portals?? Where are the law and order?? When it is free, is it not supposed to be totally free?? Given that a new born’s life is at stake, who would think of money, that too in a government hospital??

What exactly are the hospital authorities heading the government hospitals in India thinking?? or doing if I may ask??

If not for this auto driver, I am not sure if the lady would have been able to see the baby in her arms!! Some people are God-sends, this auto driver is definitely one of them for the young couple!. Now, we need rulers who have some selflessness like this autorickshaw driver.

Although I am a believer that God would have sent someone else; that does not mean the government cannot do anything for the poor and underprivileged, especially after declaring that all deliveries in a Govt Hospital are free of cost!. If the delivery is free, does it not imply that till the mother-baby duo are seen safe out of the portals of the hospital everything is free?? If not, its time the authorities started raising funds!!

.........Will the authorities think??

We are born with positivity!

All of us are built to be positive. We do not need someone to make us feel positive.  Going by electrical polarity, current flows from...